I come from a rural village in Denmark. As a child, I hated it and couldn’t wait to leave. Now, I love every moment spent there and miss it whenever I'm not. I see, sense, and feel the beauty of the place in a way I never did before. It’s simple, silent, and most of all, plain—a calming balm for the senses.
As a child, I resented its simplicity, its lack of adornment. But now, it’s exactly what I long for. I long for that simplicity, that plainness.
When you walk through my village, you can look into the homes, as curtains aren’t necessary—there’s nothing to hide or fear. And behind those windows, you’ll see plain white walls. As a child, those bare white walls screamed at me, but now they offer me peace. I no longer see them as signs of ignorance or cultural inadequacy, but rather as symbols of a deeper understanding—that “less is more.” It’s healthy to be surrounded by fewer things. We don’t need to fill our spaces with “stuff”; we only need the few things that truly matter to us. We don’t need to show off or fill our homes with material possessions.
Now, I cherish a home that is simple, plain, yet whole, calm, and safe. What I’ve learned since childhood is that we don’t need to fill every empty space—whether it’s a gap in a conversation, a space on the wall, or a moment in time. When there’s stillness in a conversation, I’ve learned to embrace it as a sign of love and comfort. We can sit in silence together, breathing the same air, without the need to fill it with words. My children love to be with me in this silence—it’s when we truly connect.
But why stop there?
Let’s take this silence and simplicity beyond our home and relationships, into our hearts and emotions.
We often spend so much time trying to put our feelings into words, trying to communicate our passions, emotions, and love. Every time we feel something, we often focus more on translating it into words or understanding why we feel it, than actually feeling it. We search for solutions, fixes, or explanations, and in doing so, we don’t give space for what our hearts truly need: silence.
So next time you feel an emotion, don’t overthink it. Don’t try to find the right words or solve it—just sit with it. Embrace the feeling as it is. Even if it’s uncomfortable, allow it into your silent space. Don’t be afraid to feel. Connect with the silence your heart is offering, and let it be.
Accepting your heart as it is right now doesn’t mean resigning yourself to a
situation or agreeing with an unpleasant feeling. It simply means accepting it for the moment, embracing the silence and stillness that your heart offers.
How to Connect to This Still and Settled Place Within You:
Find a quiet space where you can be alone.
Sit or lie down comfortably.
Tune into your heart’s emotions and simply accept them as they are. There’s no need to ask “Why?” Just be silent.
No need to ask “What do I do now?” Just be. Be kind to your heart.
Over time, the noise of your heart will subside, and you will settle into a comfortable flow of acceptance and kindness toward yourself.
Things Take Time:
It will take time to “hear” the quiet space within your heart without feeling the need to do anything about it.
Feel what your heart is saying.
Take a deep breath.
Acknowledge the emotions and sensations as you breathe.
Now, listen attentively to your heart’s beating. Don’t judge or feel shame; simply welcome it.
Let everything become light, like air—just there.
This is the silence of your heart. The more we listen, return to it, and accept it, the more we cleanse and purify ourselves in this simple, pure silence—without seeking solutions, answers, or explanations.
Be, Breathe and accept
Mette Theilmann Founder of HerEdge Cote d’Azur Club
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